“I’m super fantastic, thank you. How are you?” The standard response from my Headmaster, who I worked for when I started teaching, many moons ago. Ghandi may have been his inspiration:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
I often hear “Not too bad, you?”, “Okay”, “Good, you?” and even, “Could be worse!” but hardly ever: SUPER FANTASTIC! When I asked my head if he really felt like that, he explained that he wanted to emit positive energy and he believed that positive thinking and positive words made him (and others) happier. None of this should really come as a shock to us but like all good things, it is worth reminding oneself.
When working with and speaking to children this positive approach is so important. Impressionable and copy-cats are what they are at this young age and we must never underestimate the enormous influence that we can have on the young eyes and ears, soaking up everything that we do and say. The responsibility is huge – we all know this; parenting is daunting, scary at times but oh so rewarding when things go right.
A few things to ponder on whilst nibbling on yet another mince pie:
- Are your words building people up and radiating positivity?
- Be mindful of the language that you use in front on your children, especially when in a bad mood or a negative frame of mind – the news of late, certainly does not help matters.
- Think about how you would you sound if you taped yourself and watched it over – I remind myself of this constantly, especially when I get over-excited on the touch-line!
- And as boarding parents (and I include myself in this one) do we talk about “taking our children to school” instead of “dropping them off” and embrace the boarding journey as one of which the whole family is a part.
- Words are powerful – we often remind our children to say nice things to each other, not to gossip and be positive…are we living out our own advice?
As a boarding community, our Houses look festive and full of Christmas lights and cheer. Our In-weekend promises to be a very special one – with the Boarders’ Feast (and a Magic show) on Saturday night and a plethora of activities on offer all weekend long. Photos and a write up to follow…
Until next Wednesday, I wish you a SUPER FANTASTIC week ahead.
HEAD of BOARDING